12 Changes a Pastor Should Consider for His Mental Health
- Joe McKeever joemckeever.com
- Updated Feb 13, 2024
“…that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord” (Acts 3:19).
Like everyone else on the planet, we preachers get in ruts. That’s not all bad because sometimes we need to put it on cruise and not have to make critical decisions about mundane things. The morning ritual of showering and dressing, the drive to the office, and such should not require our undivided attention.
But from time to time, we need some variety. Our outlook needs refreshing. Our output needs sharpening. Our spirits need an uplift. Our days could use a new perspective.
Here are some quick fix-its for the pastor’s mental health…
1. The pastor should vary his schedule.
And yes, this may include the routine things: shower at night, take a different route to the office, or eat something different for breakfast.
2. The pastor should cross denominational lines and meet ministers outside his usual circle.
This assumes the pastor is already well-acquainted with those in his own denominational group.
The church down the street or across town has just welcomed a new minister. Call and see if you can take him to lunch or at least just drop by to say hello. Try nothing heavy here; just make a friendly visit. See if the Lord has something for you and that minister in the relationship. Some of the finest friendships a pastor can ever have are with colleagues doing the same work for Christ but in different settings.
3. He should attend a conference where he knows none of the speakers.
The first time I did this, I drove 500 miles for the experience. I had seen the conference advertised in a national Christian weekly. That was decades ago, but it remains fresh in my memory for a hundred reasons.
4. He should make arrangements to take an extended vacation of at least three weeks.
People who study these things say an overworked person will take three days to gear down to rest on a vacation and will begin cranking up the internal engine three days before returning to work. If the vacation lasts one week, you have exactly one day of rest. Several times over four-plus decades of ministry, we worked things out with the churches to take extended vacations. They were like gifts from Heaven. (The pastor who says his church cannot do without him for three weeks is living in a dream world. They got along without you before they met you, and will do so when God calls you away.)
5. One day a week, get rid of the phone.
Leave the cell phone with someone else for the working hours and seclude yourself to study, pray, and think. The helper will answer his phone, take messages, and interrupt him only if necessary.
I know, I know. He can turn off his phone and keep it in his pocket. But it’s not the same as knowing someone has it and will answer every call and deal with it as necessary.
6. Once in a while, he should conduct his staff meetings outside or while taking a walk.
A colleague from years back reminds me that our most enjoyable staff times were when we circled the block talking about the church and various issues. A lovely park lay behind our church, and a complete circuit was probably a mile, which made our walks 15-20 minutes in length. If the conversation became animated or intense, we would pause under a shade tree to continue it.
7. Once a year, the pastor should call off the staff meeting (without warning) and have everyone go outside for a game of softball.
And no, Pastor, not paintball. Nothing stressful and nothing really competitive. Relaxing and enjoying fellowship with each other is the point, not beating anyone. Make arrangements for refreshments to be served. Make it pure fun.
8. If possible, the pastor should arrange an all-staff lunch with his mom and dad.
For a dozen years in my 30s and 40s, I pastored 80 miles from our family home. Several times, we took the staff over to have lunch with Mom and Dad. Everyone enjoyed it, and we talked non-stop in the car, coming and going. A hundred things happen on such an outing, all of them good.
9. Occasionally, the pastor should lock himself in the church library and browse to his heart’s content.
The library contains a wealth of material that he would never come across otherwise.
If your church library is like ours, it contains a lot of stuff from fifty years ago or more, books long forgotten. The pastor who wants an illustration for Sunday’s sermon no one else is using may simply read some old book in the church library. (Find something by C. Roy Angell and you’ll have a feast.)
10. Let the pastor ask two or three people who know him best to rate his joy quotient.
If he is carrying too much stress, he will be laughing less, which is always a danger sign.
11. Work out a plan with family and co-workers, then call your wife and tell her she has one hour to get her things together for an overnight trip.
Tell her nothing about the destination, but make it good. (You’d better know your wife if you expect to pull this off!)
My last pastorate was in metro New Orleans. Now, the airport was only 2 miles from my house, but a train trip is infinitely more fun.
Each morning, the Amtrak pulled out of our station at seven o’clock, heading north toward Hattiesburg, Meridian, Tuscaloosa, Birmingham, and Atlanta on its way to New York. Each evening, the train arrived back at our depot around seven o’clock. So – a train ride of a couple of hours, then checking into a hotel, renting a car, driving around, eating dinner, and having time for the two of you – well, sir, I’m betting your wife would decide there is hope for you yet!
Anything you do to bless this person you are married to will make your life better and go a long way toward blessing your ministry.
12. Ask other pastors – particularly those you admire most – what they do to spice up their days and keep themselves sharp.
Ask what fascinating books they have read lately, what writer/preacher has ministered to them most, and what insights they’ve gleaned from Scripture recently. Have your notebook handy to jot it down.
We have mentioned only 12 ideas. There are ten thousand more out there if you are willing to find them.
The idea is to stay fresh, keeping the windows of your soul and spirit open so the breeze of the Spirit may blow through.
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