Speak Life-giving Words - iBelieve Truth - February 1, 2024
“The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.” Proverbs 15: 4 NIV
As I poured my coffee, waiting for the jolt of caffeine to kick-start my day, I mindlessly grabbed my phone. I braced for the flood of e-mails that accrued while I slept but noticed I’d received a text in the middle of the night.
Clicking on the little message icon, I was surprised to see the contents. The previous night, a group of girls got together to grab dinner and catch up. The text was from one of my friends asking for forgiveness over something she had playfully said during the night. It took me a few beats to recall what she had said, but I quickly tapped back, “Nothing to forgive; I knew it was a joke, no harm done.”
I couldn’t help but think about my friend’s text as I went about my day. It touched my heart that she was bothered at the mere thought of her words offending that she made an extra effort to seek forgiveness.
I felt that familiar sense of conviction in my heart. How many times had I meant something as a joke, but it could have been hurtful to the recipient? Even worse, how often had I ignored the prompting to ask for forgiveness, knowing that what was meant in fun had caused harm?
Have you ever found yourself in one of these scenarios?
Your friend, notorious for being late, sends a message that she is running behind. You joke that she would be late for her own birthday party, and while she laughs it off, she is quiet during your time together.
You see that your sister-in-law has brought the store-bought dessert to the family gathering once again. Playfully, you ask if her oven still has the plastic wrapping on the top. She brushes off your comment, but you find the dessert’s leftovers thrown in the trash.
Your husband may mention needing to go up a pant size. Flippantly, you tell him it might be good for him to skip a meal or two. He pats his stomach, trying not to let it show it hurt him, but over the next few days, there’s tension in the air.
Guiltily, I have been a part of all three scenarios above, and shamefully, I let it go instead of seeking forgiveness for unintentionally (or maybe intentionally) causing hurt. Our key verse, Proverbs 15:4, tells us, “The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.”
What do you think of when you hear the word "soothing"? I think of my grandmother’s gentle touch and lyrical voice as she sang me to sleep. The meaning of soothing is to calm or bring comfort to. Conversely, a perverse person is someone whose actions are unreasonable or unhelpful. Ouch. How many times have my words fallen into both of these categories?
I’ve heard that the average woman speaks almost 5,000 words a day; for those of us with the gift of gab, I am sure that number is nearly double! That’s a lot of opportunity to provide life-giving words of encouragement or spirit-crushing quips. There will be times when we unknowingly say something hurtful, but might we be people who are so in tune with the Holy Spirit that if we feel prompted, we ask for forgiveness from those we’ve offended?
“Kind words are like honey— sweet to the soul and healthy for the body” (Proverbs 26:24 NLT). May our speech be sweet-filled, dripping with kindness, and life-giving.
Heavenly Father, we are thankful for the gift of words. We know that words matter to You, and the power of life and death is in the tongue. We ask that our speech be seasoned with salt and that our conversations bring You glory. When our words have offended, they prick our hearts, stirring us to seek reconciliation and forgiveness. We are thankful You are patient with Your children and willing to forgive us when we sin against You. We love You, Lord. In Jesus’ name, amen.
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She lives in Upstate South Carolina with her husband and three young girls, where she serves as director of women's ministries at her church. Her passion is teaching the Bible to women, equipping them to live with an eternal perspective. Invite Laura to speak at your next event or learn more: www.LauraRBailey.com If you've been feeling tired, overwhelmed, depleted, or just quietly wondering where God is in the middle of a very full life — this episode is for you. And honestly? It might be for me too, because I'm recording this in one of those seasons myself. Today we're doing something a little different. Instead of going deep in a passage, we're talking about what to do when deep feels like too much — when you need less, not more. Specifically, I'm walking you through one of my favorite practices for weary seasons: handwriting scripture. Not typing it. Not scrolling past it. Actually writing it out, slowly, in your own hand — because something happens in your brain when you do that. The words land differently. They go deeper. And over time, they become part of that personal library of God's voice that the Holy Spirit can pull from when you need it most. That's what Psalm 119:11 means when it says I have hidden your word in my heart — it's scripture moving into your long-term memory, where it lives and stays even when you haven't opened your Bible in weeks. I'm sharing the five verses I wrote out for myself today — and why each one hit me fresh even though I've known some of them for years. This episode is part of our How to Study the Bible Podcast, a show that brings life back to reading the Bible and helps you understand even the hardest parts of Scripture. If this episode helps you know and love God more, be sure to follow the How to Study the Bible Podcast on Apple or Spotify so you never miss an episode!Related Resource: Instead of Doing More This Summer, Maybe You Need to Do Less
