Could It Be This Easy to Improve Your Sex Life? - I Do Every Day - July 14

Could It Be This Easy to Improve Your Sex Life?
By Lisa Lakey

A thriving sex life has long been linked to health benefits, from lowering the risk of cardiovascular disease to certain types of cancers. Several reports also suggest having sex twice a week or more may just increase your life span.

But something tells me that’s not what really makes you tumble into the bedroom.

There’s a different kind of “cancer prevention,” too. In 1 Corinthians 7:5, Paul wrote that, as a married couple, we are not to “deprive one another … so that Satan may not tempt you …” Paul knew sex protects us from the “heart diseases” of lust and unfaithfulness that mutate in our core.

Keep your marriage strong by coming together often as husband and wife.

1. Connect daily. Women in particular feel more sexually attracted to a man who cares about what’s going on in their lives. Because sex is an outward expression of what’s already happening between you emotionally, spiritually, and in every other aspect. Even if you only have 15 minutes to spare, look one another in the eye, and share what’s going on in your lives.

2. Flirt. Your spouse wants to feel wanted too. It’s amazing what a little wink across the breakfast table or raised eyebrow can convey. Text your husband to let him know you can’t wait to see him later, or slip a little note in your wife’s purse: You are beautiful to me. And I hope to fully communicate that to you later ...

3. Build up your spouse. Short, to-the-point statements can go a long way in building up your spouse’s self-image. Thank you for all you do. … Have I mentioned lately what a fantastic lover you are?

While there’s no “path to a perfect sex life,” a little effort can open the door to healthy connection rather than temptation.

Click here for more simple ways to keep your marriage bed a priority.

The Good Stuff: For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. (1 Corinthians 7:4)

Action Points: Talk about your sex life with your spouse. What’s working? What’s not? True intimacy between you requires trust and vulnerability.

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