Parenting by Design - June 10

Good boundaries

Leviticus 18:4-5:  "You must obey my laws and be careful to follow my decrees.  I am the Lord your God.  Keep my decrees and laws for the man who obeys them will live by them" (NIV).

The laws and regulations given to the Israelites may seem overwhelming and tedious to us.  God's requirements covered everything from priestly duties to skincare!  But this was not an exercise in excessive control.  The Israelite community was beginning a journey into the wilderness and God knew the pitfalls and temptations that lay ahead.  These regulations were a gesture of His love and grace to help them succeed as a nation.

Similarly, we know the pitfalls that await our children on their journey to adulthood.  Out of love and protection, we establish boundaries.  We know they do not have the maturity and wisdom to set limits for themselves.  When you find it hard to hold fast to your boundaries, remember God's example with the Israelites.  Firm boundaries communicate love and promote security.

Good boundaries let your children know you love them.