Is It Selfish to Pray for a Date With A Guy I Like?
- Christy Shipe Ask the Expert for Girls
- Updated Oct 10, 2001
Q. I believe in God with all my heart. In Sunday school we
are studying the Prayer of Jabez. There's this guy I really like. Is it greedy or selfish to ask God for the blessing of being with him or going out with him? - Paige
A.It's never bad to talk to God about your feelings, wishes, and dreams for your life. You should think of God as someone to whom you can tell anything - after all, He already knows everything! He not only knows what you're thinking and feeling, but also, He understands everything about you. Isn't it great to know that you have Someone who understands you perfectly?
So, by all means, talk with God about this guy that you like. Tell Him exactly how you are feeling. Only He has the power to give you exactly what you need.
But when you pray, keep in mind that God has a perfect plan for your
life. His plan may involve this guy or it may not. God wants to give you the very best, and only He knows if this guy is the best for you or not. So if you pray expecting that God will give you everything you ask for, you may be disappointed.
When you pray, you should have an attitude of willingness to do
whatever God wants you to do. God wants you to be obedient to His plan for your life. You don't just make up a plan for your life and then ask God to give it to you. He already has the plan worked out. Your job is to figure out what God wants you to do, not ask God to do what you want to do.
It's OK to tell God that you'd like to go out with this guy. But at the same time, you should also be able to tell Him that you will be
obedient and have a good attitude no matter what happens. If this guy is God's will for your life, then great! But if he's not in God's plan, then that should be great, too. You need to be cheerfully willing to do whatever God wants you to do.
Also, keep in mind that just because something happens does not
necessarily mean it is God's will. If this guy does ask you out, that's not necessarily a "sign from God" that you should go out with him. In order to determine God's will, you need to spend some serious time in prayer; time in the Word getting to know and understand God better; time with older, godly Christians who can give you guidance; and time talking with your parents about what they want you to do in this situation.
The most important thing is simply to seek the Lord each and every day, getting to know Him better. As you get to know God, you will begin to see and understand the wisdom of God. And it is God and His wisdom that will help you make these kinds of decisions for the rest of your life.
are studying the Prayer of Jabez. There's this guy I really like. Is it greedy or selfish to ask God for the blessing of being with him or going out with him? - Paige
A.It's never bad to talk to God about your feelings, wishes, and dreams for your life. You should think of God as someone to whom you can tell anything - after all, He already knows everything! He not only knows what you're thinking and feeling, but also, He understands everything about you. Isn't it great to know that you have Someone who understands you perfectly?
So, by all means, talk with God about this guy that you like. Tell Him exactly how you are feeling. Only He has the power to give you exactly what you need.
But when you pray, keep in mind that God has a perfect plan for your
life. His plan may involve this guy or it may not. God wants to give you the very best, and only He knows if this guy is the best for you or not. So if you pray expecting that God will give you everything you ask for, you may be disappointed.
When you pray, you should have an attitude of willingness to do
whatever God wants you to do. God wants you to be obedient to His plan for your life. You don't just make up a plan for your life and then ask God to give it to you. He already has the plan worked out. Your job is to figure out what God wants you to do, not ask God to do what you want to do.
It's OK to tell God that you'd like to go out with this guy. But at the same time, you should also be able to tell Him that you will be
obedient and have a good attitude no matter what happens. If this guy is God's will for your life, then great! But if he's not in God's plan, then that should be great, too. You need to be cheerfully willing to do whatever God wants you to do.
Also, keep in mind that just because something happens does not
necessarily mean it is God's will. If this guy does ask you out, that's not necessarily a "sign from God" that you should go out with him. In order to determine God's will, you need to spend some serious time in prayer; time in the Word getting to know and understand God better; time with older, godly Christians who can give you guidance; and time talking with your parents about what they want you to do in this situation.
The most important thing is simply to seek the Lord each and every day, getting to know Him better. As you get to know God, you will begin to see and understand the wisdom of God. And it is God and His wisdom that will help you make these kinds of decisions for the rest of your life.
