Only Speak What is Edifying

Nick had the sweetest disposition.  His wife Darla fell in love with this soft-spoken, caring individual.  He appeared to want the best for Darla. 

In the beginning of their relationship, Darla was star struck.  She could only imagine the rosy future ahead of her and Nick.  They seemed to get along so well and their values were a perfect match.

One day Darla experienced a side of Nick she had never seen before.  He became angry with Darla and words of anger and frustration and hatred were hurled at her.  She felt as if he had taken knives and thrown them at her heart. Much of the building up that Nick had done earlier in their relationship was demolished in this one outburst.

Over time, this behavior did a great deal of damage to their relationship.  God’s word teaches us what we need to do to buildup a relationship.  Doing otherwise, can destroy what should be dearest to us.

(Ephesians 4:29) "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen."

Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life, 90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and Twitter. Dr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at drdavid@marriagerecoverycenter.com. Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.

Originally published August 11, 2020.