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Parenting by Design - April 29

Learning to say "no"

Ex 18:17-18:  "Moses' father-in-law replied, ‘What you are doing is not good. You and these people who come to you will only wear yourselves out. The work is too heavy for you; you cannot handle it alone'" (NIV).

Moses was going to work every day as the sole judge over all the tribes of Israel.  The number of people demanding his time was so great he worked from dawn until dusk without making a dent in the workload.  His father-in-law, Jethro, saw this and immediately recognized a man who could not say "no" to requests for his time.  He suggested Moses focus on only two things - representing the people before God, and handling the most difficult of the disputes.  The rest of the work could be delegated to capable men he appointed.  Moses listened, delegated, and found himself doing far more than he had ever done before, but in much less time.  If this advice worked for Moses, will it not also work for us?

Appropriate boundaries are important for everyone in the family.  As the parent, you have the responsibility to set limits for your children and for yourself.