Anger restricts our vision. Anger narrows our focus, causing us to resent our mate for hurts and wounds inflicted upon us. It is then natural to review these wounds, keeping an account of all the ways we’ve been wronged. This accounting, however, creates a wall between us and our mate, and settles into our hearts like a lead weight. Offering mercy and grace, even when unmerited, lifts the veil between us and our mate, as well as between us and God. We connect again and enjoy fellowship with God and our mate. The LORD is merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and plenteous in mercy. He will not always chide: neither will he keep his anger for ever. “He does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities. For as the heaven is high above the earth, so great is his mercy for those who fear him.” (Psalm 103: 10-11).
Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life, 90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and Twitter. Dr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at drdavid@marriagerecoverycenter.com. Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.