People-pleasing is not only exhausting, but not very pleasing to others. Oh yes, we can certainly appear pleasing on the outside, but all of this pleasing others turns us into a pretzel, and we actually can become irritating. Furthermore, most people want us to be genuine, authentic. We want to know what others truly prefer, not just a pleasing word or attitude. So, consider being genuine with others. Share what you think and want. Be an individual and notice how others take an interest in you.
Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD, is a Christian Clinical Psychologist and Director of the Marriage Recovery Center. He has helped bring healing to thousands of marriages and individuals and is passionate about working with couples in crisis. If you need help, please reach out to his Client Care Team at 206.219.0145 or through their website. Dr. Hawkins is also a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and is a best-selling author of over thirty books including Never Fight Again, Gauranteed and When Loving Him is Hurting You. He has two grown sons, is happily married to Christie Hawkins, and lives on Bainbridge Island, outside Seattle, WA.