Most often when we ‘make a point’ someone gets the sharp end of the stick. We often believe we are being practical or straightforward when we justify ‘making a point,’ but think about it. When you ‘make a point’ you are talking at someone, not with them. Next time you consider making your point, consider the impact it will have on the other person. Will they feel uplifted and encouraged, or like they’ve just been stuck by something sharp? The Apostle James reminds us that the tongue “is a fire, a world of iniquity” (James 3:6).
Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD, is a Christian Clinical Psychologist and Director of the Marriage Recovery Center. He has helped bring healing to thousands of marriages and individuals and is passionate about working with couples in crisis. If you need help, please reach out to his Client Care Team at 206.219.0145 or through their website. Dr. Hawkins is also a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and is a best-selling author of over thirty books including Never Fight Again, Gauranteed and When Loving Him is Hurting You. He has two grown sons, is happily married to Christie Hawkins, and lives on Bainbridge Island, outside Seattle, WA.