It is very tempting to slip into complaining about what someone is doing or saying to us. We are tempted to slip into whining about what others have done to us. This does no good. Even complaining to the person who has hurt us has little helpful effect. Consider instead acting out of conviction, much like Jesus did. He was not afraid to speak truth into situations, but never did so out of a complaining spirit, but out of conviction. Let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes’ and your ‘no’ be ‘no’ (Matthew 5:37). Be principled and convicted about what is important to you and share from that voice with others.
Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, PhD, is a Christian Clinical Psychologist and Director of the Marriage Recovery Center. He has helped bring healing to thousands of marriages and individuals and is passionate about working with couples in crisis. If you need help, please reach out to his Client Care Team at 206.219.0145 or through their website. Dr. Hawkins is also a speaker & trainer for the American Association of Christian Counselors and is a best-selling author of over thirty books including Never Fight Again, Gauranteed and When Loving Him is Hurting You. He has two grown sons, is happily married to Christie Hawkins, and lives on Bainbridge Island, outside Seattle, WA.