What about them? Isn’t this a 50/50 deal? Don’t they have to change too? That is a common question a person asks me in regards to the behavior of their mate. My response is always the same. They are 100% responsible for their behavior, and you are totally responsible for yours. Their behavior issues are likely different than yours and you are only responsible for yours. But, you are responsible for your behavior. If you take care of your problems, many of the problems in the relationship will be cleared up. Do you take responsibility for your behavior?
Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life, 90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and Twitter. Dr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at drdavid@marriagerecoverycenter.com. Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.