While it is normal to notice what others have and be envious and jealous, we must guard against having these attitudes. Comparisons are silent killers of healthy esteem and self-appraisal. Wanting what others have causes us to lose sight of our many blessings. Consider what the Apostle James had to say on the matter: “For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice” (James 3:16). These are, of course, very strong words. James warns that jealousy is just the beginning of trouble. How are you doing at being thankful for your life and many blessings?
Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life, 90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and When Pleasing Others is Hurting You. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities. You can also find Dr. Hawkins on Facebook and Twitter. Dr. Hawkins offers a free, 20 minute consultation, with requests sent to his email address at drdavid@marriagerecoverycenter.com. Also, remember his guarantee at The Marriage Recovery Center: 3 Days To A New Marriage, Guaranteed! He is also excited to continue offering his special eBook, A Love Life of Your Dreams free for you to download.