5 Ways to Overcome Feelings of Inferiority
By Jessica Van Roekel
"For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well." (Psalm 139:13-14, ESV)
A mere look can send daggers through our hearts or send our hearts soaring on the heights. Words can crush our hopes and dreams or give them wings. The two combined can create feelings of inferiority or feelings of empowerment. Our words hold immense power. I know the thrill of life-giving words spoken to me, and I know the death knell of words designed to kill—whether from someone else or the words I speak about myself.
Inferiority fills us with feelings where we feel less than valuable or worthy. It pierces our hearts and can become a complex we struggle to overcome. It stands in the way of walking in our new God-given identity as heirs and beloved by God. However, God heals hearts and leads us nearer and nearer to his heart as we place our wounds in his gentle hands. We can take these five steps to overcome the crippling influence that inferiority holds in our lives.
We can praise God for our gifts, talents, and abilities. Inferiority tries to tell us that there is nothing good in us. It whispers we are talentless, so we view ourselves through the foggy goggles of negativity and nod our heads in sad agreement. Praise and thanksgiving clear the lenses, and we begin to see ourselves through God’s eyes. Maybe you like your smile—praise God for it. He gave it to you. Or you are physically strong—thank God for that ability. When you praise God for your gifts, talents, and abilities, no matter how small they may be, you recognize his hand in your life. You are his, and he has good plans for you.
Another step we can take is to thank God for his transforming power. A surrendered life becomes a transformed life. When we surrender our feelings of unworthiness and allow God to untangle our negative perception of ourselves, we experience transformation. We see that the gifts and abilities he gave us are designed for his purpose. We share our smiles, our strength, and our joy over what he’s doing in our lives and pass the hope we have in Christ to others. Inferiority doesn’t have to trap us in a cage, but God can set us free.
Then, obey God’s leading. When we cultivate an awareness of the good that God placed within us and experience his transformation, we begin to obey his leading. God’s word is filled with instruction, and as we put off the attitudes and behavior that hinder our spiritual growth, we uncover the power of obedience. Feeling inferior creates a negative thinking pattern, but when we choose to think about whatever is noble, pure, and excellent, as instructed to do in Philippians 4:8, we walk in obedience.
We can become an intercessor. There is power in praying for others. James 5:16-17 talks about confessing our sins to one another and praying for each other so that we may be healed. Inferiority is a wound that continues to bleed, but when we confess our struggles with it to a trusted friend, we take the first step toward healing. Praying for others points our attention away from the vacuum our struggles create and develops an awareness of other people’s troubles. This awareness leads to compassion, which leads to actions of kindness and gentleness toward others and, eventually toward us.
Finally, encourage others. It is so easy to focus on the negative. We tend to point out what someone did wrong rather than recalling what they did right. We lose sight of the good that is in us and others in our society’s pressure to do more and be more. A timely word of encouragement can stop the inward negative spiral and propel someone forward.
Intersecting Faith and Life:
When we feel inferior, we reject the truth found in Psalm 139:13-14. We wrestle with how God made us, focusing on what we don’t like rather than seeing how wonderfully God made us. The next time you look in the mirror, find one thing to praise God for. Then, thank him for the work he’s done in your life so far. When your thoughts skitter into the negative, redirect them to whatever is true, lovely, and of good report. Turn your thoughts to others by praying for someone and speaking encouraging words to them today.
Further Reading:
Psalm 139
Humility and Inferiority-Today’s Insight
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Jessica Van Roekel loves the upside-down life of following Jesus as she journeys to wholeness through brokenness. As an author, speaker, and worship leader, she uses her gifts and experiences to share God’s transformative power to rescue, restore, and renew. She longs for you to know that rejection doesn’t have to define or determine your future when placed in God’s healing hands. Find out more reframingrejectionbook.
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