Choosing to Show Mercy
By Laura Bailey
“Here is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance: Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners—of whom I am the worst. But for that very reason I was shown mercy so that in me, the worst of sinners, Christ Jesus might display his immense patience as an example for those who would believe in him and receive eternal life. “ - 1 Timothy 1:15-16 NIV
"But, Mom, you don't know what she did to me!" This is a repeat response in my house when I tell one of my daughters to forgive the other. Instead of diving into the details of the offense, I redirect my girls to focus on forgiveness. Since all three of my daughters are under nine, the offenses are relatively insignificant (in the grand scheme of things); however, to them, an accidental push, a broken toy, or a comment about their outfit is usually considered unforgivable.
The girls are often overly offended by their sister's actions. However, they almost always easily ignore their past transgression. And despite my evident frustration, they desire that I divvy the strictest punishments. This is one of the many reasons motherhood is so sanctifying. The Lord always uses my children to expose areas of sin in my life. I can easily see the stubbornness and pettiness in my children, but I can quickly gloss over it in my own life. Can you relate to one of these situations?
- Your mother-in-law made a less-than-kind comment about your parenting style at your last family gathering. You decide not to attend any of her events in the future.
- A fellow church member said they didn't enjoy tonight's Bible study, which you spent hours preparing and studying for this past week. So, you purposefully avoid her in the halls at church and hint to others how rude she can be.
- Maybe your situation is more complicated than that. Perhaps your spouse had an affair, causing emotional and financial strain on your family. He tried to make things right, but you angrily withhold visitation rights anyway.
Friend, we are called to show mercy whatever wrong has been done to you, no matter how deep the hurt, the ripple effects of the harm, or the significant impact on your life. Why? Because we, too, are sinners capable of harming those around us, but more critically, sinning against a Holy God. We must be like Paul, keeping a humble view of ourselves and remembering that we are the chief sinners. Showing mercy, forgiving, and loving the unlovable preaches easy but can be hard to practice.
But as we read in 1 Timothy 1:15-16, Paul makes a point to call attention to the assurance of his words, "Here's a trustworthy saying," that Christ Jesus came to the world to save sinners— and every human being is a sinner. Our salvation is meant to testify to God's great mercy and love for sinners. As believers, we are called to set an example, hoping that someone will come to know the Lord through our lives.
Knowing and accepting this truth doesn't make it easy to always show mercy to those who have hurt us. This also doesn't mean we must endure mistreatment or neglect healthy boundaries. But, when we rightly acknowledge our depravity, realize that we've escaped judgment for our sins, and remember the immense grace and mercy bestowed on us, we can extend the same to others. It isn't always fun being the one to extend the olive branch or offer an apology first, but it is through these acts of mercy we show Christ.
Heavenly Father, let us never forget the immense mercy you have shown your Children. We often think too highly of ourselves and less of others. We forget how we have sinned against Your people and You, a holy God. But You are long-suffering; You desire that all will come to know You; thank You for granting the gift of salvation. We love you, in Jesus' Name. Amen.
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Laura Bailey is an author and Bible teacher who encourages women to understand what they believe, why it matters, and how to apply biblical truths to their lives. Her recent book, Embracing Eternity in the Here and Now, explores how the timeless truths of Ecclesiastes help us live more peaceful, purposeful, and plentiful lives today.
She lives in Upstate South Carolina with her husband and three young girls, where she serves as director of women's ministries at her church. Her passion is teaching the Bible to women, equipping them to live with an eternal perspective. Invite Laura to speak at your next event or learn more: www.LauraRBailey.com
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