Cheering Instead of Competing
By Laura Bailey
Bible Reading
“The boys grew up, and Esau became a skillful hunter, a man of the open country, while Jacob was content to stay home among the tents.” - Genesis 25:27 NIV
My husband just completed his first sprint triathlon; I was one proud wife! The week before the race, I made a countdown sheet, the girls made posters, and we even made up a few cheers. The competition started early, but I was determined to cheer my man on from start to finish. With two sleepy girls in tow, we went to the pool just in time to watch their Daddy line up to dive in at the 7:00 AM start.
If you aren’t familiar with triathlons but plan to participate as a spectator one day, I’ll let you in on a little secret. There is a lot of waiting around, so most competitors do not have many fans present to cheer them on, especially not wives accompanied by children ages four and under. The girls and I went to the playground because it would be at least an hour before seeing my husband again. While there, some of the bikers came in and began the run, so naturally, I clapped and shouted words of encouragement to those athletes starting their final phase of competition.
My daughter then looked up and asked, “Was that Daddy?” After I told her that it was not just other people in the race, to my great chagrin, she replied, “Then why did you wish them good luck? I will only cheer for my Daddy! I hope those other people lose.”
Her response shocked me. On the way to the race, we shared that we should be excited and happy for everyone participating. We should cheer others on, even when they achieve something we wish we’d accomplished, like winning a race.
While trying to remove the speck from my daughter’s eyes, that plank was sticking pretty far out of my own (Matthew 7:5). I do not wish for others to lose or drop out of a race, but I act that way regarding the “game of life.” I can easily convince myself I deserve what others have achieved, regardless of how I “place.”
Sometimes, God reminds me of the story of Esau and Jacob to break loose from these sinful thoughts. God had specific plans for both of them, and a while, those plans ran smoothly. “The boys grew up, and Esau became a skillful hunter, a man of the open country, while Jacob was content to stay home among the tents” (Genesis 25:27). Here’s the thing: Esau was his father’s favorite, and Jacob was his mother’s. One would think both brothers were satisfied with this arrangement, but, just like us, greedy Jacob wanted more and desired to “one up” his brother instead of living contently with all God had given him.
So what did he do? He took advantage of his brother’s physical weakness, resulting in a hungry Esau “selling” Jacob's birthright (special, God-given blessings) for a bowl of soup.
This story seems extreme, an inheritance for soup, but it demonstrates an important truth about the human heart. From where do we derive pleasure? What are we seeking? Does it possess something our friends or siblings do not have or maintain a bigger, better version of what they do have? Jacob went on to trick his father, taking from his brother again. His mother was so afraid for his life that she sent him away. Fast forward -- this story has a “happy” ending, but not without its share of struggles and hardships. Jacob returned home after significant time had passed, and amazingly, Esau welcomed him with open arms.
This story also demonstrates another truth: although separated from his family because he sinned against his brother and father, God eventually reunited them after Jacob repented and humbled himself before the Lord. Most importantly, God chose Jacob to carry on the Abrahamic covenant, not Esau. However, because Jacob stole what was rightfully his brother’s and deceived his father, he suffered many consequences, including losing precious time with his family. Time that he could never regain.
Looking out the window with envy never brings satisfaction and joy– nothing good comes from greed or jealousy. God doesn’t owe us anything; all that is given to us is on loan from Him, and we must make the best of it.
Intersecting Faith & Life:
What relationships, what bounty of blessings, are you forfeiting because you cannot cheer people on around you and be glad for them? Life is pretty tough for many people, but it’s much more bearable and enjoyable when we celebrate others—their victories and efforts.
Further Reading:
Proverbs 14:30
Same Team: The Gift of the Church Body
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Laura Bailey is an author and Bible teacher who encourages women to understand what they believe, why it matters, and how to apply biblical truths to their lives. Her recent book, Embracing Eternity in the Here and Now, explores how the timeless truths of Ecclesiastes help us live more peaceful, purposeful, and plentiful lives today.
She lives in Upstate South Carolina with her husband and three young girls, where she serves as director of women's ministries at her church. Her passion is teaching the Bible to women, equipping them to live with an eternal perspective. Invite Laura to speak at your next event or learn more: www.LauraRBailey.com
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