6 Ways to Make Your Spouse Feel Extra Loved This Valentine's Day

If there is anything your spouse would love for Valentine's, it is a handwritten card. While some might think this is cheesy or cliche, it is a great way to help your spouse feel loved. Take your time as you write your handwritten Valentine's card. Include everything you love about your spouse, memories with them, and how much you love being with them. This will ensure they feel loved beyond measure.

Picking up a premade Valentine's card will give the impression that you don't really have enough interest to go out of your way for your spouse. A simple "love you" is not enough for Valentine's Day. Go out of your way this year and write a tender-hearted, loving, caring message to your spouse. It will help them to know you love them and are willing to do things out of your comfort zone to ensure they feel special.

If you are not good with words, still try your best. It is the effort and intention that matters. Avoid copying and pasting third-party ideas, as this will come across as insincere. Your spouse wants to read your words, thoughts, and feelings—not someone else's or a card created by AI. Write your own words, thoughts, and feelings, and this will prove to be a beautiful gift to your spouse on Valentine's.

While this is more pricey than other ideas, it is an option if you want it to be. If you have been married to your spouse for a long time, sometimes the connection can weaken. If you want to shake things up and regain the spark, consider taking them on a Valentine's weekend getaway. Maybe this could be going on a cruise, going to the beach, or traveling abroad. All of these ideas are suggestions; however, think about where your spouse would like to go more than anywhere else, and then go to this location.

If you want to save it as a surprise, you can. However, if your spouse isn't a fan of surprises, maybe you need to stop, think things over, and plan to tell them ahead of time. Granted, the surprise will be over, but sometimes, this is best for certain people. You know your spouse better than I do; therefore, ensure you present the idea in a way that is most appealing to them. If your spouse loves surprises, keep it as a surprise, but give them about a week's notice if they don't.

Going out for Valentine's Day dinner is a traditional way to celebrate the holiday of love. However, sometimes, doing the same event for every Valentine's Day can become redundant. Going out for dinner is still a great idea if you know your spouse loves going out on Valentine's Day, but if you want to switch it up this year, you could try surprising them with a homemade dinner. Even if you are not a well-trained cook, you can still cook a wonderful dish for Valentine's Day.

A few romantic homemade dinner ideas could be spaghetti, steak with mashed potatoes, or homemade pizza. If you wanted, you could even wait until your spouse got home from work and cook dinner together. This could be a bonding experience for you and form lasting memories. Something about cooking together builds a tighter bond of connection between individuals and helps them work as a team. Think about which one your spouse would prefer and plan to do it on Valentine's.

If you are thinking, "I really can't cook," know that this is okay. If there is no way you will cook, pick up dinner for your spouse before they get home. Still, set the table special and use your fancy dinnerware, but don't feel guilty for not being able to cook. It is entirely okay. Your spouse might even prefer you pick up a meal as there is no clean-up, and there might even be leftovers for the next day.

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A simple way to help your spouse feel loved this Valentine's is to visit them on their lunch break and bring flowers. Maybe you and your spouse have to work on Valentine's Day, but this isn't an excuse to overlook the holiday. Instead, use it as an opportunity to surprise them at work. If you want to be extra special, pick them up for lunch and take them out somewhere special. This can help your spouse be surprised as well as know you are willing to go out of your way to help them know you value them.

Many spouses overlook Valentine's because it is "just another holiday." This type of mentality will only cause problems for your marriage. Your spouse wants you to do something special for Valentine's, which could be as simple as visiting them on their lunch break. Just spending time with them will help bring a smile to their face. After the work day is over, you can still do another Valentines event, but seeing them before the end of the work day will add in the extra effort.

Sometimes, the best thing we can do to help our spouse feel loved on Valentine's Day is to do a couples activity together. This can be doing a run together, going to a bookstore, or attending a couples retreat for a weekend. Think about what your spouse loves, and try to include this activity in your Valentine's Day events. Even if you do not have the entire day with your spouse, it is important for you to take time out of your day to help them feel loved. Just the simple act of going on a run together after work and ending the day with take-out could be just what your spouse needs.

If your spouse is more artistic, try to plan a painting class together or buy a few crafts to do at home. Even if art isn't your favorite thing, placing their interest above your own is important. In this way, you will fulfill Paul's teachings in Philippians 2:3-4, "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility, value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others." Following Paul's teaching will ensure your spouse feels loved not only on Valentine's Day but also every day of the year.

Now this might sound like a strange way to ensure your spouse feels loved this Valentine's Day, but it is much needed. If your spouse is going through any mental problems or physical problems, this small act of kindness can go a long way. You know your spouse better than anyone else, therefore, you know what they need at this time. Sit with them and talk about their feelings with them. Be a listening ear and a supportive person in their life.

You never know how much this will help your spouse and make them feel loved. Sure, flowers and chocolates are great, but they are not the same as quality time with your spouse. This way of making your spouse feel loved takes a lot of time, dedication, and energy, which is why I saved it for last. Sadly, so many partners neglect time with their spouses on Valentine's Day and every other day of the year.

They think giving each other a peck on the cheek and a box of chocolates and calling it a day is okay. If you want to ensure your spouse feels loved, go the extra mile. Be there for them and truly help them know that they matter. In turn, this will help them know that you truly love them and want to help them work through any problem. Your marriage will deepen, and your spouse will know they can entirely rely on you, even when they are going through a difficult time.