7 Reasons We Long for Home and Why That’s a Good Thing

7 Reasons We Long for Home and Why That’s a Good Thing

I distinctly remember moments I longed for home while living in another country.

God called my wife and me to serve as missionaries in South Korea, and the experience brought us joy and taught us amazing lessons about faith and God. We also made lifelong friends.

At the same time, in quiet moments, I would long for home. I missed my parents and siblings. We knew we’d experience these emotions: a combination of joy and sorrow. Missionaries and expats deal with homesickness. It’s a normal human reaction.

As people are made in God’s image, how does God reveal himself through this? Here are seven reasons we long for home and why that’s a good thing.

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    1. Sense of Belonging

    We long for home because it fulfills our deep-seated need for belonging. This yearning is inherent to our human experience, reflecting our desire for connection, stability, and love. At home, we feel accepted and understood.

    The Bible speaks to this sense of belonging in various ways. Psalm 68:6 says, “God sets the lonely in families; he leads out the prisoners with singing, but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land.” God intends for us to find our place within a community where we are loved and supported. God provides families and homes for our relational needs.

    Jesus speaks to the ultimate fulfillment of our longing for home in John 14:2-3: “My Father’s house has many rooms... I am going there to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me so that you also may be where I am.” This promise assures us our deepest longing for belonging will be perfectly met in God’s eternal home.

    Understanding our longing for home fits with God’s plan encourages us to seek and foster genuine connections, providing a foretaste of the eternal belonging we will one day experience in His presence.

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  • 2. Safety and Security

    2. Safety and Security

    Home represents safety and security, essential aspects of our well-being. We feel protected from external threats and can relax and be ourselves. This sense of security provides a stable foundation to navigate life’s challenges.

    The Bible highlights the importance of safety and security. Proverbs 18:10 says, “The name of the Lord is a fortified tower; the righteous run to it and are safe.” For the righteous, God becomes the ultimate protector, offering refuge. Just as we find physical safety in our homes, we find spiritual and emotional security in God’s presence.

    Psalm 91:1-2 also says, “Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, ‘He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.’” This imagery communicates the safety and security experience in Christ. Our earthly homes mirror this divine protection, providing a place where we can find solace and strength.

    Longing for home reflects our innate need for a secure environment. It encourages us to create spaces where we and our loved ones can feel safe and cared for. Safety and security in our homes nurtures our physical, emotional, and spiritual health, enabling us to thrive.

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  • 3. Comfort and Rest

    3. Comfort and Rest

    Longing for home represents comfort and rest, essential for our rejuvenation. Home is where we retreat from the outside world’s stresses and demands, finding a sanctuary where we can relax, recharge, and find peace. This desire for a place of rest and comfort is deeply ingrained in our human experience and aligns with God’s design for us.

    Matthew 11:28-30, Jesus invites us, saying, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Jesus offers deep spiritual rest, reflecting the peace we seek in our homes.

    Psalm 23:1-3 beautifully describes this sense of comfort: “The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he refreshes my soul.” God’s presence gives us a place of tranquility and restoration.

    Longing for home encourages us to create environments where we and our loved ones can experience peace and rejuvenation. We should build spaces to foster rest, connecting to God’s desire for us to find comfort in him.

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    4. Identity and Heritage

    Home gives us a sense of belonging and represents our identity and heritage, anchoring us to our roots, which shape us. Our personal stories begin at home, where family names, traditions, and values are imparted. This connection grounds us in a larger narrative that gives our lives meaning.

    Moses instructs the Israelites, “These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road when you lie down, and when you get up.” (Deuteronomy 6:6-7) The home is a central place for passing down faith and values from generation to generation.

    Psalm 78:4 emphasizes the importance of heritage: “We will not hide them from their descendants; we will tell the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the Lord, his power, and the wonders he has done.” Got teaches us to share our spiritual and cultural heritage with our children, ensuring our identity and beliefs are preserved and celebrated. We benefit when we understand who we are and where we come from, fostering a sense of stability and continuity.

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    5. Love and Relationships

    Belonging and identity speak to our fundamental need for love and relationships, expressed in our yearning for home. We form deep connections with family and loved ones at home, providing a nurturing environment.

    In 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, Paul describes the essence of godly love: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” Paul takes the Greek word, agape, and expands it to express divine, ultimate love.

    Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 underscores the need for relationships: “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.” In our homes, we find support and companionship, making us stronger.

    With this in mind, we create spaces where love and relationships flourish. A loving home provides emotional security, fostering an environment where individuals feel valued and supported. This love allows us to face the world and share love with others.

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    6. Nostalgia and Memories

    Our earliest memories occur at home and continue to accumulate throughout our lives. These significant moments and milestones create a tapestry of experiences that define us. This longing for familiar and cherished memories helps form our story from the past to the present.

    In Deuteronomy 32:7, Moses instructs the Israelites, “Remember the days of old; consider the generations long past. Ask your father, and he will tell you, your elders, and they will explain to you.” This verse values recalling our history and the lessons learned from it.

    Nostalgia for home recalls the warmth and safety of family gatherings, traditions, and celebrations. These memories serve as anchors, providing a sense of belonging and continuity. They remind us of the love and support that have shaped us, creating a deep appreciation for the bonds we share with our loved ones. Unfortunately, good memories often mix with unpleasant ones because humans possess flaws and make mistakes. Hopefully, we can learn from both the pleasant and unpleasant ones. The fact they intermingle means we should not take making memories for grating: we should intentionally make healthy and loving memories with our families.

    God is only good, and he has done amazing things for us. By valuing nostalgia and memories, we honor the past while building a strong foundation for the future. Psalm 77:11 states, “I will remember the deeds of the Lord; yes, I will remember your miracles of long ago.” This value fosters gratitude and a deeper connection to our heritage.

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    7. Purpose and Direction

    If we long for home, it contains a level of stability and good that all people need to move forward. Home teaches us values, helps us discover our strengths, and helps us understand our place in the world. This foundation becomes a launching point, guiding us toward our calling and purpose, shaping our identity and life’s mission.

    We all require the purpose and direction instilled by our homes. Proverbs 22:6 says, “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old, they will not turn from it.” The home imparts wisdom and guides individuals toward their God-given purpose. Those foundational experiences and teachings set the trajectory for a meaningful and fulfilling life.

    At home, we receive guidance from our parents and family, learning lessons that shape our character and decisions. Home is where we first encounter the principles of faith, love, and service, which direct us toward our higher calling.

    We were made to set out on our own, but longing for home keeps us anchored to our core values and helps us stay focused on our true purpose. This connection to home ensures that we remain grounded in the teachings and principles that define us, providing stability and direction.

    Ultimately, our longing for home and the purpose it instills reflects God’s design for us to live intentional, directed lives.

    For believers, our ultimate home is the kingdom of heaven, where we will one day reside with our Father and spiritual family forever. Our longing for earthly homes, which can often contain grief and sorrow, should remind us of a greater home in heaven, where every tear will be wiped away, and all homesickness will be reconciled.

    Peace.

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    Britt MooneyBritt Mooney lives and tells great stories. As an author of fiction and non-fiction, he is passionate about teaching ministries and nonprofits the power of storytelling to inspire and spread truth. Mooney has a podcast called Kingdom Over Coffee and is a published author of We Were Reborn for This: The Jesus Model for Living Heaven on Earth as well as Say Yes: How God-Sized Dreams Take Flight.