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Should I Attend a Same-Sex Wedding?

  • Jim Denison Denison Forum on Truth and Culture
  • Updated Aug 11, 2017
Should I Attend a Same-Sex Wedding?

A newly married same-sex couple wants to “show the whole world that you can be gay and Muslim.” Jahed Choudhury and Sean Rogan were married in Walsall, a town 130 miles northwest of London.

However, Islam prohibits same-sex marriage. As a result, some members of Mr. Choudhury’s Muslim family disagreed with his decision. He told reporters, “This is about showing people I don’t care, my family doesn’t want to come on the day, they just don’t want to see it, it’s too embarrassing for them.” His family is certainly not the first to face this question.

In fact, a reader who has been invited to a family member’s same-sex wedding wrote to me recently asking how he should respond. If you’ve not been in this position yet, likely you will be in years to come. Consider four biblical facts:

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  • 1. The Bible forbids it.

    1. The Bible forbids it.

    Scripture forbids same-sex sexual relations. I have written extensively on this issue (see my How to Defend Biblical Marriage, for example). A same-sex marriage contradicts God’s intention for us.

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  • 2. God created and defined marriage.

    2. God created and defined marriage.

    In his view, marriage is only between a man and a woman (cf. Genesis 1:28; Jeremiah 29:6; Matthew 19:4–5; 1 Corinthians 7:14). Therefore, a same-sex “marriage” is not a biblical marriage.

    (Some claim that God’s word doesn’t address this subject, alleging that such marriages did not exist in the biblical era. This is not true. Same-sex relations were known in ancient Canaan; the emperor Nero was married to two men in separate ceremonies. Biblical writers had abundant opportunity to endorse such relationships, but they consistently forbade them.)

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  • 3. We should not endorse what the Bible prohibits.

    3. We should not endorse what the Bible prohibits.

    Paul refused to engage in behavior that would make his brother “stumble.” Our witness is vital to our public ministry as followers of Jesus.

    1 Corinthians 8:13: Therefore, if food makes my brother stumble, I will never eat meat, lest I make my brother stumble."

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  • 4. God loves gay people and calls us to do the same.

    4. God loves gay people and calls us to do the same.

    Four: God loves gay people and calls us to do the same. We are all broken by sin. Jesus died for all sinners and loves us unconditionally. Now we are to love others because “he first loved us”.

    "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God..." (Romans 3:23)

    "But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5:8)

    "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." (John 3:16)

    "We love because he first loved us." (1 John 4:19)

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  • How do these facts help us decide whether to attend a same-sex wedding?

    How do these facts help us decide whether to attend a same-sex wedding?

    Here’s my position: I would not attend the wedding or the reception since my presence at either would suggest that I approve what God forbids.

    However, I would meet with the couple beforehand to explain: because I care for them, I cannot endorse what I believe is not best for them. I will pray for them and want to be involved in their lives. But I believe that a wedding celebrates a sacred covenant between a couple and God. I cannot attend such a ceremony if it violates his word and will.

    But there's one more thing I would do:

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  • Be intentional in demonstrating love.

    Be intentional in demonstrating love.

    Since my decision may damage my relationship with the couple, I would do all I could before and after the wedding to demonstrate my love for them. Jesus ate with sinners (Matthew 9:10) and calls us to love everyone he loves. But love sometimes requires us to say what people need to hear even when it is not what they want to hear.

    “Speaking the truth in love” (Ephesians 4:15) is our challenge, our mandate, and our privilege.

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    This article was adapted from Jim Denison's, "Should You Attend A Same-Sex Wedding?" The original article can be viewed in full here.

    For more from the Denison Forum on Truth and Culture, please visit www.denisonforum.org.

    Do you want to live a life in whole-hearted pursuit of loving God and others? Read today's First15 at www.first15.org.

  • What about addressing the issue?

    What about addressing the issue?

    To get a pastor's perspective on reaching homosexuals, check out Tim Wilkins' Preaching on Homosexuality: Taking the Road Less Traveled. 

    "Our task in preaching is to radiate God's love so as to eclipse the artificial love found in homosexuality." -Tim Wilkins

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